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How To Be Financially Ready For Matrimony

My friends and I shared a significant night last Wednesday. You see, we witnessed the proposal that my friend had orchestrated. The only catch was that he intended to get married in two months. The relatively short amount of time to prepare shook everyone. I noticed that their resources were stretched due to the absence of a stable budget. This scenario made me realize how important it is to set the tone of the wedding earlier on.

Take control of your wedding by financially planning at least 6 months ahead. Relatives from both sides are more likely to state their opinions during the planning process. They will feel like they have the right to impose if they are contributing to the costs. Be open to their colorful suggestions, but remember that it is your special day.

Employ savvy steps such as these:

DISCUSS EACH OTHER’S FINANCIAL GOALS

Before tying the knot, one of the first steps that you must take is to discuss about each other’s short-term and long-term goals. Spare a portion of your weekend to openly converse about your thoughts on personal finance. Respect the opinion of your partner to reach a beneficial decision for your wedding and your future household.

Doing so will give you an opportunity to build joint financial goals. Whether you decide to save for a new car or for an early retirement, aligning your goals to a common plan will serve as a good bonding experience.

DECIDE YOUR OVERALL BUDGET

The overall budget can make or break your dream wedding. This is why you must arrange your plans ahead of time. Curate a list of all the items that you will need to purchase. Include miscellaneous and other expenses such as your airfare tickets for the honeymoon.

It is important to stick to what you can afford despite the expectations of your friends or family. For an informed decision, you may use this guideline:

Wedding banquet – 60%
Bridal package – 15%
Wedding ceremony – 5%
Honeymoon – 20%

CONSIDER THE SOLEMNISATION AND OTHER TRADITIONS

What type of customary ceremony do you want to uphold? For example, the Chinese tea ceremony occurs when the couple greets the elders of the family either around or on the wedding day itself. Extra costs may include refreshments and hong baos for the children and helpers.

On the other hand, it is compulsory to register the Civil Marriage at a solemnisation ceremony. The solemnisers are generally volunteers who officiate weddings at no cost. It is advisable to send your gratitude by giving a token or providing a reimbursement for the transportation costs. The ceremony may be held at the Registry of Marriage (ROM). To know more about ROM’s affordable fees, please visit: rom.gov.sg.

BORROW MONEY AS YOUR LAST RESORT

If the wedding that you envision will cost a fortune, consider making alterations. You may even hold the wedding at a later date in order to save money to fulfill your fantasy. A simple and intimate wedding can be great too. Remember that borrowing money shall be your last resort.

If you intend to borrow money, please shop around for the lowest Effective Interest Rate (EIR) on your loan.

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Lavish venues and luxurious honeymoon are not really necessary for a fruitful marriage. What is more vital is that you celebrate the day with the people whom you love the most.

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Why Many Singaporeans Are Not Tying The Knot

About 4 out of 5 Singapore residents express their intentions to get married. But, why are they not pursuing what their hearts deeply desire?

In 2013, 83% of the participants in the survey by National Population and Talent Division said that they want to tie the knot. This figure is slightly lower than the reported 85% in the previous survey (2007). We can only predict that the decline will continue by 2019.

The leading reasons why most of the respondents are not employing immediate marital plans are saving up for the wedding and saving up for the housing. Furthermore, 84% of the 4,646 participants intended to have 1-2 children only. Those people who are not planning to have any children or to have an extension to their family cited financial costs as one of their top reasons. It does not take a notable genius to understand how money gravely influences the Singaporean’s approach to marriage and parenthood.

Many residents of Singapore are delaying the the event of matrimony as they want to earn more money, to build an attractive career, and to be financially independent. These factors push up the national median age of first marriages.

MAKING MONEY IS HAPPINESS

“Making money is happiness…”, said Nobel Peace Prize winner Muhammad Yunus. Along with happiness, money seems to go hand-in-hand with marriage. Many Singaporeans perceive that the primary focus of life is building careers and gaining more pay. A relatively significant amount of the population delay marriage to save money for cushioning the high cost of living. They are wary about certain expenses too. I cannot deny the fact that the wedding ceremony, home renovation, and infant care costs an overwhelming wealth!

The recent report by the Department of Statistics Singapore support these sentiments. It found that the median age for grooms at first marriage rose to 30.3 years old in 2015. During the same period, the median age for brides rose at a faster rate to 28.2 years old. These respondents wanted to attain “some level of success” to attract potential partners.

I AM A STRONG WOMEN WITH OR WITHOUT THIS OTHER PERSON

“I am a strong woman with or without this other person…”, said American performer Queen Latifah.

It is probably no coincidence or sorcery that as women gained more economic power in the recent decades, they have been less likely to get married. Women are less likely to wed due to financial security alone. Dr. Norman Li, the Associate Professor of Psychology at Singapore Management University, has his own take on this trend. He said that: “Women are now becoming more and more educated and earning increasingly more income. So, there are increasingly fewer men who meet their standards.”

Do you agree with Dr. Norman’s statements? Well, one thing is for sure. Birth rates have been hit due to women marrying later or not marrying at all.

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In order to entice more Singaporeans to get married and have children, institutions may employ different rewards. Banks may start to offer matrimony loans that specialize on the expenses of the wedding and the early years of marriage. Moreover, employers may provide a baby bonus (i.e., a cash gift) or a paid maternity leave.

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How To Deal With Relationship Feuds About Money

The moral values that we learned taught us that relationships are far more important than money. Conflict is bound to happen when people put more weight on material items over interpersonal relationships or when they see money as a measure of the relationship’s worth.

Deal with the monetary feuds to save your various relationships.

1. PARTNER’S PERSPECTIVES

Differences in each others perspectives is inevitable when two people come together. Although you love each other dearly, it is rare to find couples who always see eye to eye. This is why it is important to start understanding each other’s views about money. Explicitly discuss about your beliefs on financial issues and spending habits. For instance, a partner who is a hardcore saver may view money as an important currency that shall not be wasted.

Learn to put yourself in your partner’s situation by recognizing his or her financial strengths. Let us put this in perspective by imagining that two people are buying a flat screen television. Half of this relationship is a spender while the other half is a saver. They can compromise by combining the spender’s ability to commit to a new purchase with the saver’s ability to get a good deal!

2. FIGHTING FOR INHERITANCE

The authors of the informative book entitled “The Family War: Winning the Inheritance” vividly explained what it is like to be tangled in estate disputes. Envision your own family tree with interconnected branches that share a single trunk. After it has been shaken by a strong force (i.e., war over inheritance), one or more of its branches are broken down. The sad part is that they may never grow back.

As you can see, money and death can do strange things to a close-knit family. Lawyers find this scenario as one of the most challenging cases to handle. This is why some of them advocate the drafting of a will and planning for estate distribution while the client is still alive. You must also appoint a trusted person to make medical decisions should you become incapacitated.

3. MARITAL WOES

Financial issues is among the top reasons why Singaporean marriages fight and eventually part. A committed couple who suffers from serious monetary problems will usually face loads of tension and stress, which often translates to heated quarrels.

Prevent a fueled fight by fully disclosing your financial circumstance to your significant other. This is uncomfortable and awkward at first but, you have to try. Tell your partner about your outstanding debts, financial obligations, income sources, and other assets. This will make you empathize with each other more. From time to time, do not forget to check if your financial goals are still in sync.

4. BORROWER VS. LENDER

To deal with the disputes over the money that you loaned, you can show your written agreement and other supporting documents.

You may have dodged the constant knocking of the bank by loaning from a friend or a family member but, you must still treat it as a business matter. Putting the terms of the loan in a handwritten format protects both parties as well as your relationship. After all, borrowing a substantial amount of money is not the same as borrowing a vehicle!

Get everything in writing if you are borrowing a large sum of money or if the lender is strict when it comes to full repayment. The agreement is called a promissory note. Have the promissory note signed by both parties and and a lawyer (if possible). This will ensure that pursuit of legal actions when necessary.

5. GRANDPARENT’S FAVORITE

If your mature child and his or her spouse are having a hard time drawing a healthy financial conclusion, you may offer to help them out especially for the sake of your grandchildren. As a grandparent, it is acceptable to give out money to your family for a specific purpose. You may also highlight that the money must be used for that purpose. However, it does mean that you are entitled to manage all their financial affairs.

Financial advice should be given only if asked. You do not want to be a “know-it-all” parent who constantly dishes unsolicited advice. Your children are no longer toddlers that you have to guide. Although, you can always make a polite offer.

6. FRIENDLY DISPUTES

No matter how much you disagree with your friend’s unhealthy spending habits, you must take a step back from those negative feelings. Do not immediately burst into anger when you see his or her credit card bills. Blaming your friend for his or her outstanding debt will not help too. It is crucial for you to remove anger and frustration out of the equation.

Break the cycle of constant fighting and help your friend out by discussing the matter maturely. Agree to support each other along the way.

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Do not let your financial woes to get the best of your meaningful relationships!

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Affordable And Romantic Honeymoon Destinations In Asia

Whether you prefer a peaceful time at the beach or a lively day packed with cultural adventures, you will not be disappointed with any of these top-rated and incredibly affordable honeymoon destinations in Asia:

LAID-BACK LAOS

For couples who are looking forward to enjoy a laid-back honeymoon filled with rich cultural experience, you may consider going to the spectacular city of Luang Prabang in Laos. The entirety of this beautiful city is a UNESCO World Heritage site. Relaxed is one word that perfectly encapsulates its inhabitants. People in this city are not rushing to catch up with the rest of the world. They simply enjoy the humble things in life. It is immensely different from the fast-paced and relatively demanding lifestyle we have in Singapore!

Honeymooners can enjoy the glorious waterfalls, riverside ambience, amazing river cruises, untouched countryside, and sacred Buddhist temples. It is recommended to visit this destination from March to September.

Cheapest Flights For Two Adults: S$688 thru Air Asia

SPICY SRI LANKA

Sri Lanka is both a budget-friendly and extraordinary way to kick start your new life together. It has been considered as one of the top-rated honeymoon destinations in Asia due to its interesting culture, delectable (and spicy) food, as well as its friendly locals. Its natural resources boast with endless beaches and breathtaking mountains. Paradise is an understatement! Just take a look at what this country’s landscapes can offer:

For optimum weather conditions, it is best to visit the country from May to September at the east coast and from December to March at its west and south coasts.

Cheapest Flights For Two Adults: S$556 thru Air Asia

MAGNIFICENT MALDIVES

Looking for our very own “Caribbean” in Asia? Look no further as Maldives will delight you with its pristine beaches and world-class scuba diving services.

The floating bungalows and resorts set on beautiful blue waters will make you and your better half want to stay there forever. To turn up the romance, you must visit from April to November when rain showers are expected.

Cheapest Airfare For Two Adults: S$374 thru Tiger Airways

VIBRANT VIETNAM

Probably the cheapest destination in this list is Vietnam. In less than 3 hours, you will arrive at this Southeast Asian country that is filled with bustling cities, tranquil beaches, and stunning rivers. Newlyweds can savor the delicious local food, enjoy the cruise in Mekong Delta, and appreciate a biking trip together. Book a flight between September to December for the best weather conditions.

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Cheapest Airfare For Two Adults: S$208 thru Tiger Airways

Note: All the airfares were based on the prices of the two-way tickets from August 29-31, 2016. Information were taken from cheapflights.com.sg.

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Important Money Matters To Sort Out After Divorce

Ending your relationship with someone you vowed to spend a lifetime with is never easy. Getting a divorce causes a significant life change that is often complex and stressful. It involves coping with several issues such as division of assets, discussion of maintenance, and custody of the children. These issues bring forth emotional, economic, and legal considerations.

Divorce is not simplistic wherein one solution fits everyone else’s circumstance. It is case-specific as it takes the needs and means of each person into account. Even the length of your marriage affects the division of assets. For instance, if your marriage is brief, the court may decide to part you with the money you had before coming in to the relationship.

According to the 2013 Population Trends by Statistics Singapore, marital dissolutions are escalating with 7,386 in 2009 from 7,216 in 2008. With this increasing number of divorced couples, it is important to discuss the financial matters to sort out after the breakup.

1. IMMEDIATE FINANCIAL CONCERN

Your first concern shall be the recurrent household bills. If you had been paying your bills through a joint account, you have to make some arrangements with your bank to dissolve this account and pay through your personal account instead. Remember to update your GIRO arrangements as well.

2. MAINTENANCE AFTER DIVORCE

Maintenance is intended to cover the living expenses and necessities of the wife and her children. Under Singapore’s law, maintenance for the wife continues until she remarried or passes away while the maintenance for the children continues until the age of 21 or until graduation. The husband can pay the wife in a lump sum but only monthly maintenance is allowed for the children.

There is no specific amount or length of maintenance as the Family Justice Courts examine the situation to arrive at a reasonable and fair decision.

3. THE FAMILY HOME

One of the most daunting decisions you have to make (especially if you used your CPF savings to buy a property with your ex-spouse) is the housing arrangement. Are you going to sell your family home? Or will you keep it while the other one moves out?

If you intend to sell your house wherein CPF savings were used to purchase it, you will need to apply for CPF refunds to your respective accounts. Please visit the CPF Board website for more information.

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