Possessions vs Experiences: Where Should You Spend Your Money?

Congratulations! You have survived one of the most challenging years of your life – 2020. As a reward, you may either purchase new possessions or new experiences. Personally, I saved up enough money to purchase a Nintendo Switch Lite. My hesitations rose as January 2021 came. I realized that I want to spend this amount on experiences instead. Surely, I will spend numerous hours on playing it for the first few weeks. However, happiness attached to things fade quickly. Instead, I can invite my significant other to a fine dining restaurant or a relaxing staycation.

A study by Dr. Thomas Gilovich, a psychology professor at Cornell University showed why possessions have a fleeting effect. Our excitement fades because we get used to new things. What once seemed novel quickly becomes the norm. We adapt.

I remember purchasing my first designer bag. I started collecting lower-end bags and began to grow fond with high-end bags. As I buy more designer bags, my expectations increased. I became more particular with the brand and the price. My increased expectations led to increase expenses. We keep raising the bar with possessions. This leads to the desire of wanting new and better things.

Lastly, possessions foster comparisons. You may purchase the latest designer bag, but feel empty when you compare your collection to your friends. There will always be someone with a better item than yours. These reasons highlight why it is better to invest on experiences than on possessions.

THE POWER OF EXPERIENCES

1. Experiences help you invest on purposes and passions.

If your guiding principle in life are possessions, you may be in trouble. You will never feel fulfilled chasing after the next “must have” item. Real happiness can be reaped through experiences. Follow your purpose and passion.

2. Experiences become a part of your identity.

You are a culmination of your experiences. Buying an iPhone is not going to change who you are as a person. Completing your first triathlon will certainly change you. You were shaped by the things you have done, the places you have been, and the people you met.

3. Experiences fuel less comparison.

Our experiences are subjective. It is hard to compare the quality of vacation two people have. A person may have a short and meaningful vacation, while his peer may have a long and wasteful one. It is difficult to quantify the relative value of any two experiences, which makes them more enjoyable.

4. Experiences foster anticipation.

Anticipation of an experience is important in increasing one’s excitement and enjoyment. While, anticipation of obtaining a material possession can cause impatience and frustration. Savor the moments of planning all the way to the memories that you will cherish forever.

5. Experiences introduce you to a whole new world.

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Unlike material possessions, experiences introduce you to new perspectives and moral lessons. For instance, travelling can instill gratitude and acceptance. You will begin to appreciate and understand different cultures as you travel to New York City or Manila City. Let your wallet take you to places you have never been before!

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5 Inexpensive Pleasures Found In Singapore

Pleasure is a purely instinctive reaction lasting for 30 seconds to 2 hours. While happiness can be elusive, sources of pleasure are fairly easy to come by. We all need to indulge in pleasurable moments that will not break the bank! Add icing to your cake by checking out these suggestions that will help you savor the day.

INDULGE IN RICH CULTURE AND HISTORY

Explore the rich history dating as far as 1887 as you step into the halls of the National Museum of Singapore. Beneath its 19th-century colonial exterior is its cutting-edge technology, which it uses as a means to present the nation’s legacy and development. Its galleries take you on an immersive voyage with modern lenses. The new exhibition entitled “Home, Truly: Growing Up with Singapore” is up until August 2021.

The museum opened when the country moved into Phase Two. Please follow the COVID-19 guidelines to ensure everyone’s safety. It is open daily from 10 am to 7 pm.

INDULGE IN NATURAL WONDERS

Help your body benefit from having a healthy dose of sunlight and fresh air as you go outdoors. Treat yourself with nature’s beauty as you stroll the Singapore Botanic Gardens. The Gardens has been renowned as a UNESCO World Heritage Site at the 39th session of the World Heritage Committee on July 2015. It is the first and only tropical botanic garden on the UNESCO’s World Heritage List. This recognition speaks volumes on the wonders that this 82-hectare Gardens holds.

With more than 150 years of history, the Gardens will continue to play an important role as a leading tropical botanical institute and an endearing place to all Singaporeans. Visitors are asked to have a maximum group size of 8 individuals. A distance of 1 meter from other groups is also required. You must also keep a distance of 3 meters from others during exercises.

INDULGE IN FASTER CONNECTIONS

Being stuck at home for the majority of 2020 taught us the importance of having fast and reliable internet connectivity. We need this to stay connected to our friends and family members, to collaborate with our co-workers, and to order necessary household items online. Do not settle for slow and choppy internet services! Upgrade your current phone or internet plan by checking with your internet service provider.

Ask if it is possible to upgrade to a fiber optic or a high-speed cable. For instance, StarHub offers 2Gbps Fibre Broadband for as low as S$62.90 per month and 1Gbps Fibre Broadband for as low as S$39.90 per month.

INDULDGE ON YOUR INTERESTS

Take this time as an opportunity to indulge on your interests. What are some things that you want to do, but have no time for? It can be great for your mental health to work towards your new goals. Improve your skills by searching through fitness centers that provide free or inexpensive remote classes. You may also look for online music and dance lessons. Lastly, you can download free apps that will help you learn a new language or two.

While you’re at home, there are many great opportunities to use online learning to improve your skills. Yoga studios and fitness gyms are offering remote classes, many for free. Music and dance teachers are teaching lessons online. Why not use this time to learn a new language, learn to code, learn new cooking skills or find a new hobby?

INDULDGE ON MUCH-DESERVED SELF-CARE

With everything that happened during the past year, you deserve to take care of yourself. Self-care is not selfish! Self-care allows you to be more productive and motivated to tackle other upcoming tasks. Moreover, you will be able to support local restaurants and artisans.

Naiise has a plethora of self-care items such as bath bombs, teas, and candles. Bath bombs sell for as low as S$10. Interestingly, one bath bomb includes a 24kt gold leaf. I would love to try that!

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At a time when you have to be careful with your money, there are still affordable indulgences to enjoy. Consider an item or two on this list!

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How To Manage Your New Year Expectations

It is hard to believe the unprecedented year 2020 has come to a close. While things have certainly changed, people still develop expectations about future events. However, many people see the new year as a means to refresh a “frozen browser”. Change does not come overnight. View 2021 as a timeline for change. You will morph into the person you want to be as the days go by.

On that note, here are several tips to help you manage your life expectations.

LIFE HAS MEANING

Viktor Frankl was an Austrian Holocaust survivor, a neurologist, a psychiatrist, a philosopher and an author. He founded Logotherapy, which looks at the beauty in suffering. He believes in man’s dedicated search for meaning. Defining what matters to you can help you manage your expectations. Working at home or being trapped in your own space can make you feel helpless. It helps to adapt to the situation that you are in. Humans are incredibly resilient and challenging circumstances such as the pandemic help as foster and nurture our relationships. Focus on that.

WORK RELATIONSHIPS TAKE TIME

If you have a specific list of expectations about how your co-workers should respond or behave around you, your work relationships will suffer. I am not referring to acceptable (e.g., meeting the deadlines) and unacceptable behaviors (e.g., sexual harassment) here. Instead, you must not expect the person to behave a certain way just because you desire them to. For instance, you cannot expect your co-worker who is not a “morning person” to greet you with a cheerful high-five every morning. You will be disappointed. Accept your co-workers as they are.

STAY IN THE MOMENT

Sports Psychology highlights that the body is capable of far more than what we believe. Athletes who applied Sports Psychology to their routines have practiced visualization for success. It is good to visualize a pleasant future, but being anxious about the future can diminish your well-being. Avoid contemplating about what the future effects of the pandemic. Instead, do your best to stay in the moment. Try meditation. Mindful meditation is the process of actively and openly observing one’s physical, mental, and emotional experiences.

SET SMALL TREATS

Open your 2021 calendar and set your monthly goals. Accomplishing each goal entails getting a small treat. As many of our plans for the year have been postponed, you may allow each family member to choose a monthly treat to boost their motivation.

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED

Year 2020 taught us that not everything goes as planned. Instead of hitching your wagon to the assumptions of the future, re-direct your mind to the present moment. It takes self-acceptance, patience, and will to manage your expectations.

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What are your financial expectations for year 2021? Be flexible enough to embrace life’s surprises!

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6 Last-Minute Shopping Ideas

Christmas falls on the same each year, but it still manages to sneak up on us. Many people prefer to do last-minute shopping by rushing to the mall or by clicking “add to cart”. While you can always give your loved one a gift card, these last-minute gift ideas feel way more personal.

#1: BATH TOWEL – S$15

Muji creates high quality items at affordable prices. Add posh to your friend’s house by gifting a set of Muji bath towels. You may add a personal touch by stitching your friend’s initials on these towels.

#2: LAVENDER SOY CANDLE – S$18

As your loved ones deal with the copious amounts of work or school stress, they will need a trip to the spa or two. Help them unwind in the safety of their owns by gifting soothing candles. Lavender helps the person to relax and calm down. You may purchase a Lavender soy candle at naiise.com.

#3: VANITY TRAYS – S$9.90

Find a gift that is perfect for organizing all smaller items in the bathroom or in the desk. Look no further than IKEA’s SAXBORGA. This set of 2 cork trays make it easy to organize makeup, jewelry, and other small accessories. Help your friend keep her space neat and tidy with this handy organizer.

#4: SPORTS BRA – S$39-45

If your significant other loves to keep fit, then athleisure is her ideal present. A reliable sports bra keeps you supported and comfortable during a workout. You will strike a jackpot by gifting the Anta or Under Armour sports bra at zalora.sg.

#5: FOREO FOFO CLEANSER – S$130

If your sibling enjoys skincare as much as I do, consider purchasing a waterproof facial cleansing device such as Foreo. Foreo uses T-Sonic pulsations to assist deep and gentle cleansing over the skin. It is a cleansing device that helps absorb the skincare products better. Sephora Singapore carries the Foreo Fofo for S$130.

#6: FITBIT VERSA 2 – S$258

The most expensive item on this list suits both men and women. The Fitbit Versa 2 is a smartwatch that helps create bedtime reminders, set alarms, and check the weather with its voice-activated technology. You can also receive insight into your health necessities such as your sleep schedule and your heart rate. Moreover, you can connect it to Spotify and play songs from your watch. It is available for a discounted rate at Lazada Singapore.

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It helps to know what your recipient’s interests and hobbies are. Find an ideal gift that suits his or her preferences. Afterwards, add a touching written message to brighten his or her Christmas.

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10 Powerful Micro Habits That Can Change Your Life

Habits are powerful. From cycling every morning to praying every night, habits are frequent patterns of behaviors that reflect who we are. It is the selective repetition of activities that shapes our lives. Inevitably, our habits become significant parts of our lifestyles.

We often fail at building habits by setting unrealistic and unsustainable goals. Starting small makes habit building more manageable. Benjamin Hardy compares this concept (micro habits) to compounding interest. When given choice, people would opt to take a million dollars in the bank as opposed to a cent that doubles in value over the course of the month. What most people do not realize is that they will get more payout by taking the second option.

He said: “The doubling penny actually ends up being $10.7 million dollars. Yet, the majority of the growth happens at the very end, and most people aren’t patient enough for the big return. The live for the moment culture of today stops people from investing.”

Micro habits can change your life. It is up to you to strategize which habits you are willing to integrate in your routine. Here are some of the examples.

#1: WRITE A PARAGRAPH

Whether you are building a robust business plan or a non-fiction book, start by writing a few sentences each day. Make it a goal to write a paragraph by the end of the week. The momentum will build on its own and you will find yourself effortlessly writing more and more as the days go by. In fact, I have written my second book in less than two months. Beginnings are always the hardest.

#2: LISTEN TO UPLIFTING PODCASTS OR SONGS

Open your Spotify or music app and listen to podcasts and songs that inspire you. Children typically benefit from having background music while they learn. You may consider listening to a financial podcast as you travel to work. Great music can put you in an energized working state.

#3: RESPOND TO TEXTS AND EMAILS

As much as possible, respond to important emails and texts as they come in. This way, you will not be left with a backlog of tasks to attend to.

#4: BE LESS REACTIVE

Train your mind to be calmer. When you see or hear something that immediately frustrates or upsets you, avoid reacting first. Analyze your thoughts and take a deep breath. Learning to take small pauses will help you figure out where your emotions come from and what your next action should be.

#5: PREPARE FOR YOUR NEXT DAY

Always come to work or school prepared. Prepare for the next day by allotting a few minutes of your night routine to preparation. Make a simple list of the things you need to bring or tasks that you need to accomplish tomorrow. Then, plan your attire. This can take you about 5 to 10 minutes.

#6: TAKE A POWER NAP

A power nap that can span for 15 minutes is all you need to get back to your optimum performance. It is a skill that you can master for a period of time. You will find yourself accomplishing more by napping once or twice a day.

#7: PRACTICE SAYING “NO”

Our energy levels are limited per day. More often than not, you will come across some of the most demanding people. Ensure that you spend your energy to the things and people that you truly care about. Do not feel bad for saying “no”. Ultimately, it is a means of self-preservation.

#8: DRINK MORE WATER

It is recommended to drink about 8 cups of water a day. Just focus on drinking one more glass a day. Then, it will become a part of your routine.

#9: EAT ONE LESS UNHEALTHY SNACK A DAY

It is easier to skip one unhealthy snack a day than to overhaul one’s entire diet. Focus on one unhealthy item that you can live without that day. Just one!

#10: CELEBRATE SMALL WINS

This year has been all about counting our blessings. Big wins do not come by often. Boost your morale by celebrating small wins. There is a reason why people rush to go to the game’s “boss level”. We constantly want to be rewarded. So, every time a small positive event happens in your life, consider it a “win”. You may treat yourself to a hearty lunch or write it down in your “success journal”.

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Celebrate small wins. You deserve it!

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