How to Combine Finances with Your Partner After Marriage

Congratulations on tying the knot! Now comes the real test: managing money as a TEAM. Whether you’re saving for a BTO, cutting tax bills, or just splitting date-night expenses, combining finances is key.

On that note, here are ways to make it seamless and drama-free.

DECODE EACH OTHER’S MONEY HABITS

First things first, how does your partner handle money? Maybe you’re a spreadsheet whiz, but they’ve been winging it with an “I’ll deal with it later” mindset. No judgment here!

Before you start pointing out their questionable spending habits, take a moment. What are they actually good at? Perhaps they’re great at saving or scoring insane deals. The goal isn’t to replace your system or theirs but to create one that works for both of you.

TALK ABOUT YOUR MONEY VALUES

Don’t just focus on what to spend or save, talk about why instead. What matters to both of you? Is it traveling, securing a comfortable retirement, or splurging on coffee from that atas café every weekend?

For instance, I’m all about giving back as a secretary of a non-profit foundation (yes, I know it sounds like a Hallmark card, but it’s true). When my partner found out, he was like, “Wait, we’re giving how much away?” Once we had a proper chat about our values and got on the same page, planning became much easier.

HAVE NO SECRETS AND SURPRISES

Transparency is everything. Lay it all out there: your income, debts, investments, and even that sneaky monthly subscription to a gaming app.

Have debt? Earning less than you’d like? That’s okay. What matters is honesty. The last thing you want is for your partner to find out about a hidden credit card bill. Marriage is about supporting each other, not sweeping stuff under the rug.

SET UP A JOINT ACCOUNT

Sharing finances doesn’t have to be complicated. Start with your combined income and work your way down through expenses. Keep it realistic, and remember that your money should work for you, not stress you out.

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Think of it as a team project (but less annoying than group work in Uni). For example, in our household, we split the bills and stash some cash in a joint savings account. Having that structure has been a game-changer for hitting our goals, like saving for a big trip or investing in that dream flat.

PLAN FOR THE FUTURE TOGETHER

Now that the basics are sorted, it’s time to think long-term. Review your health, life, and home insurance policies, and make sure they reflect your new life as a couple. Have elderly parents to support? Factor that in too.

Financial security is about building a future you both want. With open communication and teamwork, you’ll be ready to handle whatever life throws at you, whether it’s unexpected hospital bills or sudden home repairs.

KEEP IT FLEXIBLE

Managing money doesn’t have to feel like boot camp. Make it a regular thing: grab kopi, whip out your budgeting app, and review your goals. Celebrate your wins, no matter how small, like sticking to a grocery budget or paying off a small debt.

Ultimately, it’s not about being perfect but about being partners. With a little give-and-take (and maybe some bubble tea or artisan coffee as a reward), you can ace this whole money-managing thing.

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Here’s to happily ever after… financially and otherwise!

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Budget-Friendly Ways To Spice Up Your Love Life

Does money and partnership mix well in the game of love? I have to admit, intimacy can be expressed in different ways. Some people showcase their affection through the money and the gems it can buy. Nonetheless, your financial well-being affects your intimate relationship.

Put a spotlight on your finances to increase your bond this 2020.

PAY YOURSELF FIRST

Much has been said about loving oneself first, before loving another. I cannot stress how your capacity to love affects the way you behave in the relationship. Think of it as sourcing water from either a full or an empty pail. The same sentiment applies to paying yourself first.

Aim to grow a robust savings first, before extending your funds to your partner or spouse. I know how tempting it is to invest all your money in your business or your family. So, start small and gradually increase the amount that you will keep for yourself.

CREATE A PLEASURE ACCOUNT

When you and your partner continue to deprive yourselves on a regular basis, you will find yourselves overspending at some point. Avoid being caught in this situation by determining your couple goals and saving for these.

Aside from setting aside a portion for yourself, you must allocate money for the both of you. Use your “pleasure account” to fund entertaining activities that both of you will enjoy. You each must put an amount that is fair to you and your partner.

GO ON FRUGAL DATES

Dates should not always be lavish and expensive. You can spice up the romance by indulging on frugal dates such as a movie-night at home or having a rooftop dinner.

You can also take your partner out for some outdoor activities. Spend some time in nature to refresh your mind and body. You can go to the nearby parks, nature trails, or the Sentosa beach. Keep things simple by unplugging completely whenever possible. Cycling or jogging around can give you a whole new bonding experience. Take this time to immerse yourselves in the present and in the company of each other.

DISCUSS MONEY OPENLY

Open communication without judgment is the best way to work through challenges without fostering resentment. Do not let your partner’s unpleasant feelings build up by communicating crucial parts about your finances.

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Discuss your current debt and professional state at least once a month. Go over your finances to determine your financial problems and figure out how to solve these problems. Moreover, you must plan out how you will achieve your financial goals. This will strengthen your relationship in the long run.

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