6 Telltale Signs that You Aren’t Financially Ready to Get Married

Two of the most sought-after life goals are love and money. Research supports that married couples build more wealth over their lifetime compared to those who remain single. When two people decide to spend their lives together, it is important to get to know each other’s perspective as a robust financial team.

You can be 38 and still be unprepared to settle down. Or you can be in a six-year relationship with someone you are madly in love with, but you are not ready to get married.

Regardless of the age you plan to marry, discussing your financial goals as a couple is an essential part of the conversation on your shared life goals.

On that note, here are some telltale signs that you are not financially ready to settle down.

#1: YOU’RE IN A ROUGH PATCH

A wedding would not pay for itself, so you and your partner need to save up for it. You also need to financially prepare for your life after the wedding. Household and childcare expenses will increase over time. Expenses include tuition fees, medical expenses, home loans, retirement fund, and so on.

If you are not financially ready to get married, it’s best to put all the wedding plans on hold for the time being.

#2: YOU HAVEN’T TACKLED YOUR LIVING SITUATION

For most couples, investing in a home is one of the biggest purchases they have to make. It requires careful planning and countless discussions. You need to discuss your living situation as a couple, before getting married.

Are you buying a new or resale HDB flat? Are you financing your HDB flat with an HDB loan or bank loan? How much are you going to shell out from your savings in your CPF Ordinary Account?

Keep in mind that the more money you get from your CPF savings to finance your property, the less you may have for retirement in the future. Furthermore, you must be insured under the Home Protection Scheme (HPS) if you are using your CPF savings to pay for your monthly housing loan installments.

#3: YOUR WEDDING BUDGET CONSTANTLY CHANGES

Many couples deal with unforeseen wedding expenses during wedding plans and on the day itself. If you notice that your wedding budget changes constantly, it could be a sign that you haven’t fully thought about what you can pay for.

Sit down with your partner to discuss your wedding budget and provide an ample buffer for unexpected fees. You do not need to actualize all the wedding ideas you have pinned in your Pinterest account. Instead, you need to be realistic when it comes to knowing what you want and what you can afford.

#4: YOU HAVEN’T PLANNED FOR YOUR POST-WEDDING EXPENSES

What happens when you return home from your honeymoon? Will you face rent payments, home loans, or student loans head-on? Think about how you will be able to manage the post-wedding expenses.

Not thinking about these post-wedding expenses or not saving up for your future can bring you stress during your first year/s as a married couple.

#5: YOU HAVE TRUST ISSUES

When it comes to finances, do you have problems in trusting your partner? Take it as a sign that you are not ready for marriage.

There may be a deep-rooted cause for your trust issues, but getting married will not resolve the problem. Help yourself overcome these issues first so you can truly have an open and trusting relationship with each other. You can seek professional help when necessary.

#6: YOUR CREDIT HISTORY IS TAINTED

While you may end up sharing just about everything after getting married, your credit history and credit scores remain separate in the eyes of the financial institutions. However, this can affect your relationship significantly.

It is important to be transparent about your credit score and credit history before settling down. While you may sympathize with your partner’s unpleasant financial situation and offer to help, realize that you may be in for more challenges if outstanding debts begin to suffocate your finances.

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If you see beaming red flags that you are not ready for marriage, then do not get married. Getting married is more than just signing a piece of paper. It’s a life-changing event that you must prepare for physically, mentally, and financially.

Before settling down, you need to plan all aspects of your life including your finances. Drastic changes in your finances will happen from the day you get married. You will need to make a lot of financial decisions together, so learn how to compromise and work as a team.

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Best Financial Tips from Mothers

Mothers know best. We have heard this age-old saying before. Yet, how many of us are willing to admit that it is true?

It is normal to have little spats with our beloved mothers, some of us more than others. However, we would be lost without her unconditional love and support. In honor of Mother’s Day, here is a list of some of the best financial advice that several public figures received or gave as mothers themselves.

#1: NICKI MINAJ

Rapper, singer, and song writer Nicki Minaj gave birth last 2020. Her stellar career and experiences led her to value her worth. She once said: “One thing I learned along the way in business is the necessity for you to be unapologetic about asking for how much money you deserve.”

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Do not stop negotiating your pay once the company has absorbed you!

#2: JILLIAN MICHAELS

Jillian Michaels led contestants of the Biggest Loser to new heights with her expertise as a personal trainer. Both her parents always said:

“If you want to give someone money, then give it, but don’t give away anything you can’t afford to lose.”

Her parents imparted that she should never borrow or lend money to others. Lending money, especially to people closest to you, is a tricky situation due to the lack of a written contract. Sometimes, it is difficult to ask for the money that your friends or relatives owe you. Thus, be prepared to lose money on several occasions.

#3: DOUG LEBDA

LendingTree CEO Doug Lebda said that his mother “told me there was no free lunch. If I wanted to do all the things my friends were doing, I needed to pay for it myself – so go figure it out.”

Teaching your children responsibility at an early age can help prepare them for the future. As a mother, you can reward the household tasks which your child completes.

#4: ALEX RODRIGUEZ

Alex Rodriguez is well-known for his professional baseball career. He has since transitioned to being the Chairman and CEO of A-Rod Corporation. His mother thought him to be industrious and hardworking.

“There was no one in my life growing up more industrious than my mom. She worked two jobs – as a secretary during the day, and a waitress at night – to support me and my siblings and allow me to pursue my dreams.”

#5: PAMELA HABNER

Pamela Habner is the CEO of U.S. Branded Cards for Citi. Her mother’s most powerful financial advice was “to bet on myself and double down. Be an independent woman with the resources to take care of myself – no matter what.”

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It is important to invest in yourself and grow your knowledge. You do not need to be dependent on someone to succeed in life. Do things that excite you! My mother is a lifelong learner whose motivation comes from within.  She still takes webinars and furthers her education to this day. Whenever you do something that you are passionate about, you will never lose a reason to do what you must do.

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How To Make Better Money Decisions

When it comes to handling your finances well, there is a plethora of information available online and in the nearby library. Educating ourselves and widening our financial literacy is the first step to making better financial decisions.

Often, there is no single path that will lead us to the “right” decision. Instead, we must walk the path using different strategies and methods to come up with the best financial decision. Start with these steps.

#1: EDUCATE YOURSELF

Gather as much information as possible to organize your options and action plan. Although you are inclined to make a gut-driven decision, educating yourself is an important first step. Research shows that gut feelings tend to be more accurate when they are made by experts. Thus, becoming an expert on a certain financial issue can make your intuition more reliable.

#2: INTERVIEW PEOPLE WITH SIMILAR CHOICES

Talking to people who have taken the paths that you are considering will help you see the bigger picture. Choose people who are willing to speak to you with all honesty. Study suggests that this approach can help you make more accurate predictions about your own reactions to potential future events. While no one’s experience will mirror yours exactly, you will be able to learn a lot from these people.

#3: ESTABLISH A LIST OF OUTCOMES

When making decisions, I make it a point to list the possible outcomes of each option. Writing down the outcomes can help you make better decisions. Write down a couple of ways your option can go wrong and highlight how you can potentially lose money. Then, write down the ways your option can go right. This option is a strong contender if you think that there is nothing that can go wrong.

#4: DISCUSS YOUR DECISION

Look for a person whom you trust and respect. Discuss your financial decision with that person. Discussing your decision with others will help you understand the situation at hand. Moreover, you will be able to get feedback from someone who does not have a vested interest or a personal involvement in this decision.

#5: CONSIDER BOTH THE PRESENT AND FUTURE

Improve the quality of your financial decisions by making sure that you strike a balance between what benefits you at the present and future states. Do this by listing down the possible advantages and disadvantages of an option for the short-term. The other list must contain the advantages and disadvantages of the same option in the long run.

#6: GIVE EACH OPTION A TEST RUN

When buying cars, most people take advantage of the test run. With a huge financial investment such as this, people want to make the best decision. Giving each option a test run will enable you to observe how it will impact your life.

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Research shows that people tend to make decisions differently depending on their mood. To bypass this bias, you can imagine that you have already made a decision and absorb that choice for a few days. This method allows you to determine how you will feel when you are in a range of different situations. Furthermore, you can gradually test the impact of a financial decision.

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Things To Expect When Meeting A Financial Adviser For The First Time

You have decided that 2019 is the year that you are going to meet a financial adviser. Many Singaporeans can casually start a conversation about sports, fashion, and travel. However, discussing about money is another story. The mere act of reaching out to a financial adviser brings you a step ahead towards your money goals. That being said, here are the practical things that you can expect when meeting one.

1. YOUR CURRENT FINANCIAL SITUATION WILL BE ASSESSED

A competent and conscientious financial adviser will never assume to know your needs at first glance. It is important for you to provide all the necessary financial information available. I am referring to the bank statements, insurance premiums, tax returns, and so on. These details will help the financial adviser to tackle the toughest question in one’s financial life.

What steps do you need to take to secure your future?

2. YOUR FINANCIAL PHILOSOPHY WILL BE QUESTIONED

Be honest with yourself! What is your philosophy on wealth and investment?

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If you decide to work with a professional to give you advice on money then, ensure that he or she understands your limits. Discuss each other’s financial philosophies as these would dictate his or her actions toward your account. If you are willing to risk it all then, the financial adviser will lead you to that. While, risk averse clients will have more conservative options.

The financial adviser’s approach needs to balance your goals, your financial timeline, and your appetite for risks.

3. YOUR OVERALL PROGRESS WILL BE REVIEWED

With your financial adviser, your milestones will be set on a timetable. Do not be surprised when you are asked about your ideal retirement age or ideal marrying age. These may feel too intimate, but your success lies on having a concrete plan.

Your financial progress will be reviewed based on your plan. You see, Personal Finance is a process. It helps to have a knowledgeable and emphatic professional to track how far you have come and to guide you to your next goal.

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May your financial adviser create the most suitable financial road-map for you. Good luck! 🙂

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When Shall You Ask Your Parents For Financial Help?

I cannot deny the fact that there is a wealth of financial information available in the Internet. However, the most underused financial support may be located at the comfort of your own home. Admitting you need the financial help of your beloved parents is not a simple task, but it is crucial in specific cases.

Know when to ask your parents for financial help and when not to.

DO’S: DO ASK FOR MONEY WHEN YOU ONLY NEED A RELATIVELY SMALL AMOUNT.

You are days away from receiving your coveted paycheck. The only problem is, you end up spending more than you meant. It happens! If you are lacking a few bucks to get through the days, you can call your parents to ask for a small loan. An extra S$50-S$100 can make all the difference at the end of the pay period.

This relatively small amount will be easy to return. Furthermore, it will not pose too much strain to the finances of your parents.

DON’TS: DO NOT ASK MONEY FOR A VACATION.

It is totally acceptable to ask your parents for pocket-money in order to fund your school excursions. However, it is not appropriate to ask your parents for travel fund if you are employed on a full-time basis. Reaching your dream vacation comes with a bag of determination and a realistic budget. Like a mature adult, plan to save the necessary amount and earn extra money if you have to.

DO’S: DO ASK FOR MONEY WHEN YOUR EMERGENCY FUND ISN’T ENOUGH.

Unforeseen events can spiral at any moment and you will not be able to handle every situation on your own. No one can predict that a vehicular accident may strike even if an individual safely cruises his or her car everyday. This may entail a significant medical procedure that the insurance company cannot cover. When your emergency fund and your back-up financial plan cannot cover all your expenses, it is acceptable to ask your parents for support.

DON’TS: DO NOT ASK THE IGNORANT FOR ADVICE.

My friend grew up with a silver spoon. His family had multiple properties and threw multiple parties. Basically, they purchased whatever they wanted. His parents’ mindset was that their money will last forever. Since his parents highlighted on the short-term wants rather than the importance of the long-term financial goals, my friend copied their spending patterns.

No money management skills were shaped during his younger years. He carried this out as a young adult. His parents appeared to have everything in order. But if you look closely, you will realize that his parents did not handle their financial responsibilities well. Decades went by and my friend’s family lost everything they once owned.

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If your parents are clearly not displaying financial discipline, do not mimic them. Educate yourself about the importance of savings, investments, and retirements plans. Sometimes, it is better to do things on your own.

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